I've been so irritated about it, although I'm not sure if it's just the pregnancy hormones or the fact someone doesn't like something to do with my child. I just don't understand why some people feel the need to let you know their opinions on something that has nothing to do with them, especially when it's not asked for.
We have a couple friend who are expecting their 3rd boy next month sometime. The names they have picked out are ok (Robert, William, and Zachary) just names that would have never been on my list. But I smiled, nodded, and never really thought about it again. So a few months ago Declan started being on the table if this babe was a boy. DH mentioned it to our friend (the husband) in passing and our friend was all "oh, don't name him that" and blah blah blah. I didn't give it much thought since we didn't even know if we'd ever have to worry about naming a boy. A few weeks after that, I ran into the husband at Walmart and he asked again if we had any names picked out. I said "not really, we're just waiting until we know gender" since I KNEW he'd acted negatively toward our name in the past. He went "Didn't you guys have a name picked out...starts with a D?" and I said "yes, maybe Declan if we have a boy". He acted all surprised and said "oh, I thought that was for a girl. I told Jess (his wife) it was your girl name and we thought it was a little weird". I explained that, no, it was for a boy (for a girl??? really??) and then went on my way.
So fast-forward to this afternoon. My DH went to their house this morning and ONCE AGAIN our friend asked if we had names picked out. DH said "Declan" and our friend goes "oh, you're still going with that?".......and then he has the weirdest explanation ever for his negative opinion a few months ago on the name. Not sure if he felt bad for laughing at it earlier or what, but his reasoning for making fun of it last time was "we were watching a movie with a character named Declan and we were making fun of the name and then you called the next day and said that was a name on your list". Uhhhhh, how does that make it any better? I guess that was his way of apologizing? I honestly have no clue. Dude, just freaking smile and nod. Besides, what happened the the explanation of "oh, we thought you were naming a girl that"?
I've just been aggravated about it all day. My DH isn't bothered in the least and said "oh hell, he's just giving me a hard time".. I know I shouldn't care, but I'm a protective mom! Plus, if you want to give your friend a hard time, their child should not be fair game.
We absolutely love his name and I have no doubts about it. We've actually gotten A LOT of positive feedback on it, which surprised me a bit, since it's still not that common in the US quite yet. But it's not like we made it up or gave him a normal name but completely changed the spelling to make it "unique". I
I'm sure I'll be completely over it tomorrow, since that's how I tend to be. But tonight I'm fuming. :)
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